I posted a picture on Instagram recently of this amazing, healthy, detoxifying drink that I was having one afternoon. It was a mix of cranberry concentrate, raw honey and water, meant to flush out the lymphatic system and help to cleanse the bladder and kidneys. Considering how much good it does the body, it was also really yummy thanks to the raw honey!
After I posted the pic of this superpower elixir I noticed there was a box of Cinnamon Toast Crunch cereal in the background of the picture, and I momentarily freaked out inside. Here I was posting about something so healthy, and there was sugared cereal on my counter! Questions started pouncing around in my mind like, “Should I retake the picture? Can I crop it? What will people think?”
And then I took a deep breath.
We don’t typically have sugared cereal in my house, but I let my son pick one out on the last day of school. Growing up, sugared cereal was my all-time favorite treat. We only got it once in a blue moon, but I figured if I still remember it to this day, my kids can have the same experience every once in a while.
Guess what? I don’t think anyone even noticed the cereal in the picture, and if they did, they were gracious enough not to comment about it. But even more so, it was a wonderful lesson that I needed.
I am totally cool with my kids having occasional treats since the majority of the time they eat pretty healthy. If someone thought I was a bad mom for it I can’t help that.
The real lesson is that I have to be secure in what I do as a parent and not worry about being judged. Let’s just say someone did judge me, big whoop. This was a chance to put my big girl pants on and not care. I know I am a great mom, and giving my kids Cinnamon Toast Crunch doesn’t change that.
There will always be people who do things differently than we do, but different doesn’t mean bad. Just as we hope that they don’t judge us, we need to commit to not judging the choices that they make. This is a life-long practice that gets easier with time.
I read something in the work of Byron Katie that really resonated with me. She states that there are three kinds of business:
My goal is to stay in my business. How about you?