Resistance and Friction
Resistance and Friction are a part of life. Even though I sometimes wish that life could just be one straight line without the uphill and downhill, I have realized that it will never be a full life without both. You know what they say; friction is where the magic happens.
Lately, I have had this enormous resistance towards just about everything in my life. Waking up every morning is close to impossible; standing on my mat to do my daily asana practice is like swimming against a stream and to be able to work after that, not possible. Even going to sleep has turned out to be a huge effort. I feel like a rebellious kid who does not want to do anything I am “supposed” to. It is clear something chafes me.
Usually having these periods or moments of resistance mean we are unwilling to meet or accept something ongoing in life. The more we push it away the greater it will be. It is like running in the opposite direction of where you are supposed to go and hoping to never catch up. The only way to solve it is to see it through.
Sometimes the friction and resistance is just there. There is no grand reason or explanation for it; it is simply something you have to endure. The reason of it will only be obvious once you are through on the other side.
Feeling a sense of frustration with the friction and resistance you experience is normal. The frustration can almost turn into irritation and anger. That is usually your mind wanting to solve an uncomfortable moment with logic, and when it cannot, frustrations arise. It can be similar to felling helpless or lost. These emotions all have the same origin; it is the wish of wanting things to be different.
Practice This During Your Day
- In spite of the friction and resistance going on, try to go about your day as any other day. But do it mindfully and with an extra dose of awareness. Listen to the signals. They are all there for a reason.
- Rest in the resistance and friction. Almost as if you would lean into the most uncomfortable emotion you’ve ever had. Acknowledge it. No need to change it. Just notice it.
- Notice the voice of the friction and resistance. It can be thoughts grinding on about how you should and should not do things, why one is better than the other and so on. It can be emotions coming and going during the day of total apathy, frustration, guilt and other things. All have their place, but we do not have to answer to any of them. Just observe and let go.
- Be kind to yourself. The resistance and friction you feel has something to tell you. It is here to teach you. Be humble and kind, compassionate with yourself and the struggle you are going through. It is actually okay to feel however you are feeling.
- Just Let Go. Let go of trying to label your resistance. To try to solve or talk it through. No need to analyze. Just leave it be. Just let go.